The best version of you
If you were to think back over the years of your life … when was it that you felt most happy in your own skin? Who were you when you were the most confident? The most joyful? When was it that you were the best version of you?
This question came to me from a recent episode I watched on Grace and Frankie. If you watch that show, you know that the ladies recently went through a trauma and are in the process of reinventing themselves … at age 70. It’s down right inspiring and a lesson for us to remember that age is just a number.
I think somehow, over the years, many of us have forgotten the best version of ourselves … the essence, the thing that made us uniquely and unapologetically us. Do we try to cover up that uniqueness due to society pressures or because of layers of damage caused through the years? Have we just lost or forgotten who we really are?
The other day, my son wrote to me because he was feeling a bit unsure about a new opportunity which came his way. While he is very excited about this, his question to me was that he felt he had branded himself in a certain way and now he was unsure who “the real me is”. Well, I know this kid very well and it was easy to point out all the wonderful attributes of his person. But when I tried to apply these same answers for myself … I was at a complete loss. Why is that?
Having said this, the point of this exercise is to recapture the attitude and joie de vivre we once felt and build upon it using all the experience and all the knowledge that we have today.
For myself, today on my birthday, I would have to say I’d love to recapture that carefree girl of six, running through oceans of flowers and laying with her dog in corn fields under blue skies … but that’s not all. Because I truly think the best version of me is right now – and believe me no one is more surprised than I – for all my damage, and all the fuckedupness life has dealt me, I don’t ever want to give up those years of experience. Just make them better. Live better. Be a bit silly. Sit in a cornfield under a blue sky.
Perhaps, it’s not about reinventing our self, but recapturing our best self.
Writer/photographer Lisa Mikulski. Available for print or online publications and business in the Nordic region, Europe, and the US. Editorial, features, and creative.